Mindful Sex – Have You Heard of It?

This time, three’s a crowd—and the third is you. Well, actually, it’s your mind.

We often find ourselves disconnected during sex all too easily. And when life is brimming with distractions, and social narratives attempt to dictate expectations in the bedroom, it becomes especially difficult to remain present when it comes to intimacy. But we all deserve the best, healthy sex of our lives, and guess what? It’s within reach.

Staying present during sex is definitely easier said than done. In fact, mindful sex poses a particular challenge for women when societal pressures and social conditioning prevent our ability to communicate our wants and needs and fully explore our sexuality without shame and overthinking.

But here’s the good news: you have the ability to take control of your sex life. Mindful sex means you’re in control. First, it starts with getting honest with ourselves, understanding what we want, what we need, and having the confidence to vocalize it. It’s about creating a safe space within you where all the noise from the outside world can take a backseat.

The Weight of Mindless Sex

When we think of mindless sex, we often think of moments where thoughts of unanswered emails or tomorrow’s responsibilities slip into our intimate space; however, there is a layer to the lack of presence and additional weight we carry that you may have yet to recognize. So, let’s dig a bit deeper.

"Reclaiming agency over our bodies, desires, and pleasure and breaking free from societal norms and expectations."

Staying present during sex is definitely easier said than done. In fact, mindful sex poses a particular challenge for women when societal pressures and social conditioning prevent our ability to communicate our wants and needs and fully explore our sexuality without shame and overthinking.

But here’s the good news: you have the ability to take control of your sex life. Mindful sex means you’re in control. First, it starts with getting honest with ourselves, understanding what we want, what we need, and having the confidence to vocalize it. It’s about creating a safe space within you where all the noise from the outside world can take a backseat.

The Essence of Mindful Sex

So, what exactly is mindful sex, you ask? Let’s start with mindfulness. Mindfulness is about being aware of your thoughts, behaviors, emotions, and physical senses. It’s a special type of attention that focuses on being in the present moment as it is. That means no overthinking! The practice of mindfulness can support many areas of your day-to-day life. It surely is easier said than done but here’s some more good news: it’s a skill that can be learned with practice.

There are a blend of different mindful modalities, but the common theme is that it involves reclaiming agency over our bodies, desires, and pleasure and breaking free from societal norms and expectations. It is allowing yourself to let go of shame or guilt around your sexuality. Through mindful sex, we empower ourselves to explore our sexuality authentically, celebrate pleasure, and cultivate a deeper connection with ourselves and our partners. It’s a journey of self-discovery, self-expression, and profound intimacy, where women hold the reins of their own sexual fulfillment and empowerment. A headspace is where we can have the healthiest, most vibrant sex of our lives.

It’s time to raise your standards.