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Better Music, Better Sex

Better Music, Better Sex
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“Alexa! Play Sexy Fun time mix!”

Sex and music go together like a top sheet and a duvet — you can totally have one and not the other, but you’re missing out on a leveled up horizontal experience if you do.

Studies have shown that having good sex is important to your mental and physical health. We know about the toys, outfits, and positions, but what about the music? We’re not saying you should be singing along to the big O, but we are saying that by upping your aural (aka ear/listening) game, you will definitely be able to enhance and amplify your sensual times — and not just by covering up the sound of your roommates or family members a couple of inches over (we’re talking about walls here).

Music can improve sex for the following reasons:

Aural arousal

Ever used a song to get you pumped up for a date? Guess what? It’s physical, baby! Scientific studies have shown that music can change our heart rate and create the experience of that “shivers-down-the-spine” effect. Brain activity is also impacted by the music we listen to, as blood flow is affected when we hear our favourite tunes. Another experiment showed that music helps release dopamine in the brain, just like sex does — so it’s no wonder that you’re able to elevate your feelings of arousal when you put on that favorite tantalizing track. We love when science and sex collides!

Mood setting

Probably one of the most important aspects of having better sex is the elusive feeling of “getting in the mood.” We love when we just feel naturally sexy and romantic, but just like adding spices to a dish, music helps add a flavor to your intimate moments. We know lighting can set a romantic and sensual tone in a room (that’s why every rom-com romance scene is set with candles or fireplaces flickering), but music is also an important aspect of creating sexy atmospheric vibes.

Rhythm of the night

Another fantastic aspect of inviting music into your lovemaking practices is the element of rhythm. Sometimes it can be difficult to get on the same page with your partner in the moment: Maybe you’re coming in hot and heavy, and they’re coming in soft and steady. By choosing a particular song, you can set a subliminal pace that serves as an equalizer. Humans are incredibly complex, beautiful creatures, but it’s incredible to see how we can all pick up a beat or a baseline. Bring a beat into the bedroom, and feel those sparks fly!

Music can keep you focused

Being mindful and fully connected engages us and our partners in creating a better sexual experience. Focusing on what is happening in the present moment enhances the pleasure of both partners, as you tune in fully to one another.

It can be a struggle to be mindful and present when we’re spending quality time with ourselves or with a partner, but using music — especially something that sets the tone — allows a framework for keeping your eye on the prize as other noisy distractions fall away. One hot tip from us: Choose a playlist that has songs with a similar vibe if there’s a particular tone you’re trying to set. If you’re a wildcard and you enjoy changing up the tempo, go for it — but choosing songs with a similar style or tempo will allow you and your partner to relax into the experience without constantly changing things up.

Confidence boost

Having confidence in ourselves is a huge part of having great sex. Being intimate with someone can be a very vulnerable experience (you’re literally letting someone in) — so when you’re feeling your most powerful, you’re more likely to enjoy yourself. Music can be hugely beneficial for raising your vibrations and allowing you to step into your strength. There’s no better feeling than honestly communicating how you feel, and owning your own body and pleasure. Plus, being sexually confident is a turn on for your partner, and should be a turn on for you!

Cue: that confidence-boosting playlist. Pick something that makes you feel sexy and goddess-like, and let the notes and lyrics help your confidence soar. Our favorite examples of sexually empowering tunes to get sensual with? “Candy” by Doja Cat, “Wow” by Zara Larsson featuring Sabrina Carpenter, Travis Scott’s “Goosebumps,” “Leave You Now” by JANNEY, and Beyonce’s “All Night.”

Sacral Chakra

The human body is made up of energy, and contains seven Chakras, each of which relate to a different part of our body and spirit. We know that everything has a certain frequency, so it’s no wonder that when striving for better sex, tapping into the Sacral Chakra using music — and on a baser level, vibrations — you’re unlocking a powerful energy inside yourself that enhances your joy and pleasure. Your Sacral Chakra is located just above the pubic bone, and is responsible for passion, sexuality, and intimacy.

Music during sex is completely a personal preference. Some partners may be more aroused by the natural sounds of love-making, like deep breathing or moaning (we all know that can be very sexy) — but adding a soundtrack to the bedroom can be great if you want to try something new. Most music apps have playlists perfectly curated for you, and finding the right one can be part of the fun.

Alternatively, if you’re looking for an app that curates music for you based on your own unique rhythm and style, you could try something like Bed Beats, which is like a personal DJ for your romantic time. There are just so many options to help you “get jiggy with it” and our advice is to experiment and find what works for you — and always remember to have fun!