Better Music, Better Sex

“Alexa! Play Sexy Fun time mix!”

Sex and music go together like a top sheet and a duvet — you can totally have one and not the other, but you’re missing out on a leveled up horizontal experience if you do.

Studies have shown that having good sex is important to your mental and physical health. We know about the toys, outfits, and positions, but what about the music? We’re not saying you should be singing along to the big O, but we are saying that by upping your aural (aka ear/listening) game, you will definitely be able to enhance and amplify your sensual times — and not just by covering up the sound of your roommates or family members a couple of inches over (we’re talking about walls here).

Music can improve sex for the following reasons:

Aural arousal

Mood setting

Rhythm of the night

Music can keep you focused

It can be a struggle to be mindful and present when we’re spending quality time with ourselves or with a partner, but using music — especially something that sets the tone — allows a framework for keeping your eye on the prize as other noisy distractions fall away. One hot tip from us: Choose a playlist that has songs with a similar vibe if there’s a particular tone you’re trying to set. If you’re a wildcard and you enjoy changing up the tempo, go for it — but choosing songs with a similar style or tempo will allow you and your partner to relax into the experience without constantly changing things up.

Confidence boost

Cue: that confidence-boosting playlist. Pick something that makes you feel sexy and goddess-like, and let the notes and lyrics help your confidence soar. Our favorite examples of sexually empowering tunes to get sensual with? “Candy” by Doja Cat, “Wow” by Zara Larsson featuring Sabrina Carpenter, Travis Scott’s “Goosebumps,” “Leave You Now” by JANNEY, and Beyonce’s “All Night.”

Sacral Chakra

Music during sex is completely a personal preference. Some partners may be more aroused by the natural sounds of love-making, like deep breathing or moaning (we all know that can be very sexy) — but adding a soundtrack to the bedroom can be great if you want to try something new. Most music apps have playlists perfectly curated for you, and finding the right one can be part of the fun.

Alternatively, if you’re looking for an app that curates music for you based on your own unique rhythm and style, you could try something like Bed Beats, which is like a personal DJ for your romantic time. There are just so many options to help you “get jiggy with it” and our advice is to experiment and find what works for you — and always remember to have fun!